Refreshing Thoughts: It Isn’t Selfish to Embark on Self-Care

Each time I reflect on ways to take better care of myself, my mind would quickly go to the care I offer to my relationships – to others and even relationship with myself, (sounds strange right?).

With human-to-human connection, it is obvious that we certainly learn something new each time we meet someone or even partake in a new activity. Each time we meet people other than the ones we knew, there’s usually a level of experience from such a meeting. It’s now left for us to either ignore the significance of such experience or apply it to life events in the future.

Do you know the way I prefer to perceive everything I do and each person I meet? I perceive them as the snowball that increases with more snow – and eventually results to a snowman. Life can be likened to a book containing blank pages, awaiting an author to supply the write-up. We tug along with us the stories contained in the previous pages.

This is how we derive a sense of belonging. Since the blank pages depict the unknown (most feared), we can get overwhelmed and feel unsafe just brooding over what would likely fill up the blank pages On the other hand, these blank pages can provide us with creation possibility, and course. It is left for us to supply the words.

Creating new relationships is my passion, I usually gain new experience meeting others and also learn something new about myself with that experience. My submission is that what we see in others at that point in time would reflect our own internal world. Thus, being a whole requires input from others – not that the other person is actually doing something for us, just that the impact of meeting another person helps you get to know yourself better.

It is the nature of women to care for others and consider caring for themselves last. As women, we would not eat until our kids have eaten, we are the last to retire to bed, even our exercise routines come after every other person, and thing has been attended to. Simply put, we rarely have time for ourselves as women. Here’s the question, does this type of self-care reflect back other people in our lives, and how?

This kind of relationship we build with ourselves as women, is it going to reflect back in others, and how? Will others be able to see and know themselves better through us when we don’t even make out time to tend for ourselves?